The Worst Advice You Will Ever Get…Achievement Over Fulfillment


I was ten years old when he debuted on evening TV. He was amazing. I fell in love with his ability to make me laugh. He went on to become one of the most famous actors/comedians of all time. He won an Oscar for a serious roll, not for comedy, which had made him famous. And then one day on the news they said he hung himself.

After listening to Tony Robbins talk about Robin Williams, I realized the worst advice I could give anyone, especially my kids, is that they need to achieve. That they need to strive for fame or money, or have a big house and drive a Mercedes-Benz. In the end, stuff means nothing. Tony went on to explain that “fulfillment” trumps “achievement.” It made so much sense.

Earlier in the day, a friend had reached out for help. After our talk, I was on cloud nine. I didn’t get any money for my help, but I was fulfilled. I was happy. Helping this person was all I needed.

Later in the day I took the first car I ever had out for a drive. I’m a car guy. The feeling of driving a sweet ride is like the butterflies you got when you saw your first love. I was gone for an hour. I hadn’t felt this way since I got the car in 1985. I was overwhelmed with excitement! I wanted more.

It wasn’t until I was listening to the podcast with Tim Farris and Tony Robbins that it all clicked. I will never be satisfied striving for material items, such as money or fame. I now understand why my priest is a priest and why a husband and wife will adopt ten children. It’s because they get butterflies. They are fulfilled.

It took me 47 years to figure it out. Life is about…butterflies.

A balanced lifestyle? Oh please!

I read more and more articles about creating a balanced lifestyle.  For some reason, most people I meet are usually business owners and they have no recollection what balance is. It seems that they’re trying to achieve it but they seem to come up short again and again.  Falling short, so often, most people end up only frustrated.

So I have a different approach for you…Why not just eliminate lifestyle balance out of your formula for happiness?

Let’s imagine that we eliminate balance out of the life equation, we replace it instead with passion and focus.  No longer needing to be concerned with balance, let’s intensely focus on passion.

Do you remember when you first fell in love with a significant other?
You wanted to be with them all of the time.
– You thought about them constantly.
– Life revolved around them in every way.

When you are truly passioniate about something instead of someone, it is the same. You think about it all the time and you find ways to do that activity that you love.  Your passion can be your business, your family, your spiritual beliefs, or even having the best yard in the neighborhood. Passion is something that encompasses you.  It fills you up.  Doing what makes you passionate sustains you and gives you deep fulfilling energy.

Find something to become passionate about if you haven’t already.   I am interested to know what you pick.  Message me.  I would love to hear.

New business  – Children – Church – Old hobby –
New hobby – Spouse – Friendships – Philanthropy –
Retirement -Traveling – Education – House – Career

Let’s consider focus.  Focus is when you clear everything else out of your head and you place all of your mental emphasis on one thing.   Focus is the ability to cancel out the cheering crowd and focus on the batter in front of you. Some call it “the zone”.  Let’s just call it focus.  Focus can be difficult especially in our fast-paced world but it is so effective when you can harness it.  To truly be focused, it requires you to pay much less attention to things that are not important.  This takes discipline.  With focus, you can achieve.

Now for the sake of simplicity, I suggest hyper-focusing on three things in life and seeing what you can achieve.

Family – Business – Spiritualness

The Class Clown…You Always Remember Them

The Class Clown…you always remember them

TAG5Who was it?
We all had one in school…I married one.
We most likely remember them first before anyone else.
Getting attention is what the class clown did so well.
As a business owner,
as a sales person,
we are trying to get the attention of our prospective client. When we market on social media, we are trying to get attention. Views are one thing.

TV commercials are views…but what do we do when a commercial comes on? We fast-forward through it or look at our phone, IPad or laptop.

When marketing on social media,
Focus on getting ATTENTION!!!!
Forget the view count!!
Focus on the viewer remembering your company.