The Worst Advice You Will Ever Get…Achievement Over Fulfillment

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I was ten years old when he debuted on evening TV. He was amazing. I fell in love with his ability to make me laugh. He went on to become one of the most famous actors/comedians of all time. He won an Oscar for a serious roll, not for comedy, which had made him famous. And then one day on the news they said he hung himself.

After listening to Tony Robbins talk about Robin Williams, I realized the worst advice I could give anyone, especially my kids, is that they need to achieve. That they need to strive for fame or money, or have a big house and drive a Mercedes-Benz. In the end, stuff means nothing. Tony went on to explain that “fulfillment” trumps “achievement.” It made so much sense.

Earlier in the day, a friend had reached out for help. After our talk, I was on cloud nine. I didn’t get any money for my help, but I was fulfilled. I was happy. Helping this person was all I needed.

Later in the day I took the first car I ever had out for a drive. I’m a car guy. The feeling of driving a sweet ride is like the butterflies you got when you saw your first love. I was gone for an hour. I hadn’t felt this way since I got the car in 1985. I was overwhelmed with excitement! I wanted more.

It wasn’t until I was listening to the podcast with Tim Farris and Tony Robbins that it all clicked. I will never be satisfied striving for material items, such as money or fame. I now understand why my priest is a priest and why a husband and wife will adopt ten children. It’s because they get butterflies. They are fulfilled.

It took me 47 years to figure it out. Life is about…butterflies.

Truth of the Matter – Jobs

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You may have played a game or a variation of this game at a party or maybe even in school when you were younger.   The jest is a person tells a series of facts about themselves and then it is up to the others in the group to sort out which fact is ACTUALLY true.   I think it is a refreshing way to get to know someone rather than just a list of facts.  So, every so often, I intend to post some “Truth of the Matter” posts about myself.  If you have any questions you would like to ask me, I would love to hear from you and I would certainly consider answering your question online or even giving you a call and telling you the answer.   So here it goes….

I have actually had many different jobs in my lifetime.  While I would not say I have enjoyed every job as much as another, I think each came at a different season of my life when it just made sense.   Each of those jobs taught me different things even when I was a teenager.  I can look back and tell you something important that I carry forward from everything I have ever done professionally.

Which of these is the “truth of the matter?”

  1. I worked as a personal assistant for a fashion designer during my summer breaks in college.
  2. One of the jobs I had was an assistant chef at a Mexican cuisine restaurant.
  3. Right after graduation from college, I was a tax accountant.

Click here to find the truth.