The Worst Advice You Will Ever Get…Achievement Over Fulfillment

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I was ten years old when he debuted on evening TV. He was amazing. I fell in love with his ability to make me laugh. He went on to become one of the most famous actors/comedians of all time. He won an Oscar for a serious roll, not for comedy, which had made him famous. And then one day on the news they said he hung himself.

After listening to Tony Robbins talk about Robin Williams, I realized the worst advice I could give anyone, especially my kids, is that they need to achieve. That they need to strive for fame or money, or have a big house and drive a Mercedes-Benz. In the end, stuff means nothing. Tony went on to explain that “fulfillment” trumps “achievement.” It made so much sense.

Earlier in the day, a friend had reached out for help. After our talk, I was on cloud nine. I didn’t get any money for my help, but I was fulfilled. I was happy. Helping this person was all I needed.

Later in the day I took the first car I ever had out for a drive. I’m a car guy. The feeling of driving a sweet ride is like the butterflies you got when you saw your first love. I was gone for an hour. I hadn’t felt this way since I got the car in 1985. I was overwhelmed with excitement! I wanted more.

It wasn’t until I was listening to the podcast with Tim Farris and Tony Robbins that it all clicked. I will never be satisfied striving for material items, such as money or fame. I now understand why my priest is a priest and why a husband and wife will adopt ten children. It’s because they get butterflies. They are fulfilled.

It took me 47 years to figure it out. Life is about…butterflies.